In other cases, the disfellowshipped relative may be living outside the immediate
family circle and home. Although there might be a need for limited contact on some rare occasion to care for a necessary family matter, any such contact should be kept to a minimum. Loyal Christian family members do not look for excuses to have dealings with a disfellowshipped relative not living at home. Rather, loyalty to Jehovah and his organization moves. them to uphold the Scriptural arrangement of disfellowshipping. Their loyal course has the best interests of the wrongdoer at heart and may help him to benefit from the discipline received.* -Hebrews 12:11.
Si tu fais pas comme on te dis, t'es pas loyal envers Dieu. Il faut que je cherche bien mais je crois que c'est leur dada du moment, la loyauté.
Pitoyable comme raisonnement ...